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Wednesday, June 15, 2011
Tuesday, June 14, 2011
25 AMAZING YEARS TOGETHER!!
YEP!! you read that right! TWENTY FIVE YEARS-MARRIED! I am so very blessed and proud to say that..not everyone makes it this far! Chris and I (My opinion) have the best marriage EVER! The foundation for it? CHRIST! you may be asking yourself, whats the secret to staying happy that long? well, I will give you my humble opinion, its called GOD..yes, our relationship is solid in our faith, our trust in Christ, that HE put us together for MANY reasons, for companionship,for procreation, for loving,learning and support.Our "secret" is not a secret, its communication!!!and RESPECT! I have a real pet peeve when I hear people talk about their spouses with disrespect and I really hate it when they DE-EDIFY them..if you dont know what that means LOOK IT UP!!! it will do you good!
You need to LOVE THEM unconditionally, treat them like they are the most important person in the world...DAILY!! tell them you LOVE them DAILY!!! and show your kids how much you appreciate your spouse, how else do you think they will learn to have good and healthy relationships when they grow up? they learn by what they live. I will tell you how Chris makes me feel like im the most important person to him.
First, he NEVER leaves the house (even at 6am,when im still sleeping) without kissing me and telling me he loves me and have a good day! (you get use to being woke up for it..and its worth it!) 2nd. everything we do is SHARED!!! the cooking, the house work, the bills..(ok, so i dont do the yard...but he doesn't do the toilet!hehe)and thats ok. He never let our boys talk disrespectful to me, ever.
(his way of teaching them that I came first and how to treat a woman). 3rd, when it came time for being physical, meeting each others needs,not only in touch, but with words to is very important! we almost ALWAYS hold hands in the car..such a simple act of love, means so much, its almost as intimate as other acts. Saying hello with a kiss when you come home everyday, calling each other in the middle of the day ,just to say, I LOVE YOU! im thinking of you! i want you...those things keep you connected in a way you dont realize.IF MONEY IS A PROBLEM IN YOUR MARRIAGE...tough shit! money is NOT your marriage, its money! YOU DID NOT MARRY FOR THAT REASON IT SHOULD NOT BE THE REASON YOUR MARRIAGE IS FAILING EITHER! NO ONE wants to be poor, or broke! so stop blaming each other. If there is a lack of communication between you and your spouse, THAT'S what is causing the riff...not lack of money..guarantee!
Chris and I have been thru MANY FINANCIAL TRIALS..but never was it "his fault,my fault" it was what it was, a lack of money management, by us both.BUT together we can over come-apart we will fall.
If you haven't figured it out, I feel my husband is the BEST MAN IN THE WORLD AND I LOVE HIM WITH EVERY BEAT OF MY HEART! the butterflies in my stomach still flutter when he touches me, and my heart still smiles when he says he loves me..I am only whole because we are ONE! And I THANK GOD FOR THAT AND HIM EVERYDAY!
so...HAPPY ANNNIVERSARY SWEETHEART, I LOVE YOU MORE TODAY THEN YESTERDAY, YOUR LOVE FOR ME FILLS ME TO OVERFLOWING! I am blessed,grateful and ready for the next 25yrs!
mmmmmmmmmmwwwwwwwwaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhh!
You need to LOVE THEM unconditionally, treat them like they are the most important person in the world...DAILY!! tell them you LOVE them DAILY!!! and show your kids how much you appreciate your spouse, how else do you think they will learn to have good and healthy relationships when they grow up? they learn by what they live. I will tell you how Chris makes me feel like im the most important person to him.
First, he NEVER leaves the house (even at 6am,when im still sleeping) without kissing me and telling me he loves me and have a good day! (you get use to being woke up for it..and its worth it!) 2nd. everything we do is SHARED!!! the cooking, the house work, the bills..(ok, so i dont do the yard...but he doesn't do the toilet!hehe)and thats ok. He never let our boys talk disrespectful to me, ever.
(his way of teaching them that I came first and how to treat a woman). 3rd, when it came time for being physical, meeting each others needs,not only in touch, but with words to is very important! we almost ALWAYS hold hands in the car..such a simple act of love, means so much, its almost as intimate as other acts. Saying hello with a kiss when you come home everyday, calling each other in the middle of the day ,just to say, I LOVE YOU! im thinking of you! i want you...those things keep you connected in a way you dont realize.IF MONEY IS A PROBLEM IN YOUR MARRIAGE...tough shit! money is NOT your marriage, its money! YOU DID NOT MARRY FOR THAT REASON IT SHOULD NOT BE THE REASON YOUR MARRIAGE IS FAILING EITHER! NO ONE wants to be poor, or broke! so stop blaming each other. If there is a lack of communication between you and your spouse, THAT'S what is causing the riff...not lack of money..guarantee!
Chris and I have been thru MANY FINANCIAL TRIALS..but never was it "his fault,my fault" it was what it was, a lack of money management, by us both.BUT together we can over come-apart we will fall.
If you haven't figured it out, I feel my husband is the BEST MAN IN THE WORLD AND I LOVE HIM WITH EVERY BEAT OF MY HEART! the butterflies in my stomach still flutter when he touches me, and my heart still smiles when he says he loves me..I am only whole because we are ONE! And I THANK GOD FOR THAT AND HIM EVERYDAY!
so...HAPPY ANNNIVERSARY SWEETHEART, I LOVE YOU MORE TODAY THEN YESTERDAY, YOUR LOVE FOR ME FILLS ME TO OVERFLOWING! I am blessed,grateful and ready for the next 25yrs!
mmmmmmmmmmwwwwwwwwaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhh!
Saturday, June 4, 2011
pushing through when the smoke is thick.
There are a lot of Forrest fires out there right now,and its scary stuff~! I know that I am not in any danger of the fires, im no where near them, but i cant help feel the same fear.
I think "fire" is a means to an end, and there are other "means" out there that pose the same real threat as fire. before man, God allowed fires to clear the way for new growth,even today,the forest dept does the same, they set controlled fires (not whats happening now)For those of us that are not in control(none of us are!) The fear of losing everything and getting burned is a very real fear, just as real as it is when someone loses a job, or gets seriously ill and cant work. They are in danger of losing a lot. Every day can be stressful! sometimes the slightest thing can set us off on a crying tangent. The "smoke" is so thick, its hard to see the "son" in the sky thru it. but if we keep our focus on HIM whether we can see HIM or not, we will come out just fine.All the little "fires" in our lives that threaten our daily existence, are just that...little fires. Its hard for us to understand why and what God is trying to "clear out" to make way for new growth, but that is whats happening..When Chris and I decided to make some career changes, we knew that God was leading us there..what we were not sure about was how HOT the fire was gonna get on the journey to the "clearing".
Here is what we found..we need to ALWAYS carry water with us (The Word)to quench our thirst and protect from burns. the other important items..FAITH,HOPE AND LOVE..yeah that's right, i said it,and i meant it! When I felt the fire the other day and had a crying tangent, it was Chris who provided LOVE and HOPE in the form of a hug and encouraging words, to remind me of my FAITH! and the fact that I had NOT been drinking enough "water" was evident and that is why i felt so weak. CHRIST IS LIVING WATER! and is MORE important to LIFE then 32oz a day.
I hope that you were able to follow me through this allegoric blog. Sometimes i dont always make sense to anyone but myself. I am open for any feed back, let me know how YOU get thru the fires..how do YOU push thru the smoke to get to the clearing?
I think "fire" is a means to an end, and there are other "means" out there that pose the same real threat as fire. before man, God allowed fires to clear the way for new growth,even today,the forest dept does the same, they set controlled fires (not whats happening now)For those of us that are not in control(none of us are!) The fear of losing everything and getting burned is a very real fear, just as real as it is when someone loses a job, or gets seriously ill and cant work. They are in danger of losing a lot. Every day can be stressful! sometimes the slightest thing can set us off on a crying tangent. The "smoke" is so thick, its hard to see the "son" in the sky thru it. but if we keep our focus on HIM whether we can see HIM or not, we will come out just fine.All the little "fires" in our lives that threaten our daily existence, are just that...little fires. Its hard for us to understand why and what God is trying to "clear out" to make way for new growth, but that is whats happening..When Chris and I decided to make some career changes, we knew that God was leading us there..what we were not sure about was how HOT the fire was gonna get on the journey to the "clearing".
Here is what we found..we need to ALWAYS carry water with us (The Word)to quench our thirst and protect from burns. the other important items..FAITH,HOPE AND LOVE..yeah that's right, i said it,and i meant it! When I felt the fire the other day and had a crying tangent, it was Chris who provided LOVE and HOPE in the form of a hug and encouraging words, to remind me of my FAITH! and the fact that I had NOT been drinking enough "water" was evident and that is why i felt so weak. CHRIST IS LIVING WATER! and is MORE important to LIFE then 32oz a day.
I hope that you were able to follow me through this allegoric blog. Sometimes i dont always make sense to anyone but myself. I am open for any feed back, let me know how YOU get thru the fires..how do YOU push thru the smoke to get to the clearing?
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